She said she was going to tell your dad!
A friend of mine asked me what I would do when they came across someone hating on social media (not hating social media but being mean to someone online).
First, I hate that crap. There’s really no reason to not be decent to everyone. Even if they are being mean to you, take the high road or just laugh it off. Nothing upsets a troll more than if you just don’t care.
But I wanted to give my friend some practical advice.
So what do you do when you come across someone going off on another person online.
1. First thing first. Remember that you are not the decency police on the Internet. Unfortunately this type of thing happens and you can’t control the actions of others. If you insert yourself into the conversation in a you-can’t-do-that tone, you’ll likely get both of the people upset with you.
2. If you have a relationship with the person spewing the hatred, then feel free to reach out as a friend privately and speak to them about how others might see their attack or hate post. Is this something you want others to think when they think of you?
3. If you don’t know the person, check for a friend in common then you might want to ask them (not point it out) about the post in question. Something like “wow, I’ve never seen them post like this. Are they ok?”
4. If the attacks are personal and getting heated to the point where it could turn into something violent, then don’t hesitate to report the issue to the social network. But I see this as only a last resort.
Hope this helps.
How to stop the trolls – dealing with negative comments on the internet index
Trolls are definitely part of the dark side of sharing online
Recently I’ve noticed that extremists have kicked up their online bashing and trolling of some farmer pages. I really hate that – it’s a crappy tactic. But it does really show how the extremists are not interested in people having a choice, they are interested in people subscribing to only their choice. It makes them look like a crazy cult and that’s fine with me.
But because this is happening, I decided to re-release some of my past posts that deal with how to handle negative comments. Consider this kind of a quick index of negative links.
I will say though that you don’t have to read all of these to understand what I’m getting at. When handling negative comments or an online bashing by trolls, it’s pretty simple.
Here’s a bunch of pass posts dealing with negative comments.
You just received a negative comment online, now what do you do? – This post goes through the steps and also provides a quick social media response flowchart.
How To Handle Negative Comments On Your Facebook Profile – How to hide and unfriend people.
How To Handle Negative Comments On Your Facebook Page – How to respond, block, delete, hide and just deal with the trolls on your page.
How To Handle Negative Comments On Your Twitter Profile – How to respond and block if need be.
How Should You React to Cyberbullying – When Negative Comments Turn Ugly – How to dig in and find an attacker if things get real ugly. Also I never recommend handling it yourself – there are law enforcement that handles these types of things. Let them deal with it.
If you need help, don’t hesitate to reach out. I’ll do what I can.